Healthy relationships are not just about how much love is/is not present, but about habits we create in that relationship. One habit change that can be quite powerful is to replace “going to anger” or “shutting down” during conflict with a weekly habit of partners asking three questions*.

1. Is there anything that I need to apologize for?
2. Is there anything you need from me that you’re not getting?
3. How can I be a better partner?

Be open to really hearing what your partner is trying to say. Change your habits and you’ll change your relationships!