We know that to grow a tiny seed, DAILY care is necessary. For relationships to grow and not become stagnant or even fractured, several key factors must be a part of that care.
According to research by John Gottman, one key factor is described as “turning toward each other.” That factor is described as the number of “bids” each person makes in the marriage for their partner’s attention, affection, humor or support….those tiny moments when we CHOOSE to turn toward our partner instead of away from them. Examples can include bringing your partner their coffee or choosing loving humor instead of choosing to fight.
Those little doses of “care” about each other can make the difference between a healthy, intimate relationship and being roommates or adversaries. So, how does your garden grow? What tiny moments are you choosing to turn toward your spouse? Enjoy seeing the fruits of your labor!
“The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.”